The first time my husband and I dropped off our toddler sons — now 30 and 32 — for an overnight with his parents so we could take a break, I felt like I was gone for a week. We checked into a bed and breakfast, ate a slow and splurging dinner at The Inn at Little Washington in Washington, Virginia, and woke up early for a challenging hike. Both I — and my marriage — felt reinvigorated, and we were only gone for 24 hours!
You may think that scheduling a 24-hour escape or visit isn’t long enough to reboot yourself, but many mature women would disagree.
One 70-year-old friend who lives in Maryland recently had her two nieces from Chicago, both in their 30s, visit for 24 hours. She said it was “perfect,” as they used every minute to its absolute fullest. “We hit the ground running,” she adds. “We didn’t stop — I picked them up at the airport, we went to my favorite riverfront café for an early happy hour and we talked until midnight. Then we took a long morning walk, had a hearty brunch and sat outside on a sunny day and talked some more. There was no lapse in fun or conversation, from pick-up to drop-off at the gate — a lot can happen in one day.”
Twenty-four hours can also be all you need to recharge yourself when trials loom ahead. Three years ago, just before Christmas, Marie Leonard Olsen, 62, an attorney, author and podcaster in Washington, D.C., found out her stepfather had died. “I didn’t get along with [him], so I knew it was going to be a very hard situation. I had to find a way to hide my feelings and be loving and supportive to my mom during the funeral.”
She booked an overnight at a rural spa outside the city because she knew that meditating there and immersing herself in the natural beauty would help her “get off [her] usual hamster wheel and become more centered” before she faced the funeral and other extended family challenges. “I believe all of us should put on our oxygen mask first when we [have] to provide empathy and care for someone in a difficult situation,” says Olsen. “If we don't take care of ourselves, we're unable to be our best version for others.”
Similarly, Ellice Halpern, 64, an attorney and mediation specialist in Falls Church, Virginia, was facing steep challenges balancing her career and the needs of her three young children, who she had sole custody of after her divorce two decades ago. “I had never been away from them,” she says, and they didn’t have family nearby to help. She accepted her ex-husband’s unusual offer to “take the kids for an overnight,” and booked a last-minute flight to Charleston, rented a car and headed to The Sanctuary at Kiawah Island Golf Resort.