The last time we were in Phuket (Thailand), about a decade ago, my husband and I discussed buying a home there for retirement. We had been living in Thailand for two years and had fallen in love with the country. We weren't only hooked by the endlessly warm weather, delectable food and fascinating culture. Those were all huge factors, but the real selling point for us was first-class health care available at bargain-basement prices.
Thailand was the fifth country my husband and I lived in together, having met in South Africa in 1996 when we were both young expatriates in search of adventure. From South Africa we moved to his native Holland and then back to South Africa. After our daughter was born in 2000, we decided to try living in my home country and relocated to Connecticut, but after 9/11 we were desperate to move overseas again.
It took four years, but when my husband was offered a position at an international bank in Singapore, we jumped. Two years later we were transferred to Bangkok. With our daughter and son (born in 2003) in tow, our tidy family of four had become intrepid travelers and cultural explorers. Having learned firsthand that many countries offer luxurious lifestyles at a fraction of the cost of living in the U.S., retiring abroad seemed like a no-brainer.
Ten years later, the dream endures. Unfortunately, the marriage doesn't. In 2012 my husband left me for another woman. By that time we had been back in the U.S. for a year, living in my small New England hometown. My now-single status hasn't dimmed my enthusiasm for retiring abroad, however. In fact, my divorce — and accompanying socioeconomic slide — have only strengthened my desire to move overseas. My ex-husband and I wanted to live abroad so we could have a luxurious lifestyle; post-divorce I'm looking for a way to afford both health care and food in old age.
When I first thought of retiring abroad it was a relatively radical idea; now it's mainstream, according to Jennifer Stevens, executive director of International Living, a website and publication that advises people on living, working and retiring overseas. The government currently sends more than 693,000 Social Security payments overseas — a 40 percent increase over the past 10 years — but Stevens says the majority of retirees continue to bank in the U.S., so the number of retirees abroad is far higher. Then there are the growing number of Americans who retire abroad long before they are eligible to collect Social Security.
Why are the numbers increasing? For the same reasons I want to retire abroad: lower cost of living and good, affordable health care. I have Thailand in mind because it ticks both those boxes and is familiar, not to mention warm. International Living does a yearly ranking of the 25 best places to retire based on considerations such as safety, climate, cost of living, access to health care, entertainment and amenities, visas and ease of fitting in. This year, the top three are Panama, Costa Rica and Mexico (Thailand comes in at number 9). Stevens says the recommendations are the same for singles as for couples, but there may be some nuance when it comes to specific towns or cities.